Hidden within you are the characteristics of both greatness and fragility. And nowhere is this more apparent than in the human voice.
Your voice is a mirror of your subconscious: Your deepest fears, your greatest hopes; your myriad of beliefs and imprinted wounds. Your voice will always tell the truth and show exactly where you are emotionally, which is why it’s such a vulnerable part of you! Even if you try to hide your vulnerabilities (we all do), your voice can betray you by wavering or cracking. It’s dead honest in an annoying way. But it is also a mirror of your spirit, the true essence of who you are. Much like a finger print, your voice is the unique sound of your spirit. It’s distinctively one-of-a-kind!
There will never be another voice or spirit exactly like yours. So do the best you can with what nature gave you and embrace it! Singing truly parallels the great joy and challenge of being human. We have so much within our souls to express, which can feel scary. What if others don’t want to listen? What if we are rejected and ridiculed? What if we sound stupid and make a fool of ourselves? That is generally our greatest fear. And yet having a voice is a necessity, privilege and responsibility.
No one said it would be easy. The voice is not a perfect machine. We have imperfect pitch, vibrato and phrasing. If you’ve ever recorded your voice, especially at a studio, you’ll know what I’m talking about. Sometimes it’s obvious when you hear it played back and other times, the recording equipment will show you measurable proof! Even if just slightly, slightly sharp or flat (off pitch), the voice is not perfect. And thank God because it gives you a richer, more honest emotional sound quality. It’s much more interesting than perfection and a lot less predictable (which is what keeps it exciting)!
Insecurity, nerves, stage fright, fatigue, dry throat, mucus, congestion, soreness and swelling are things that we all have to overcome vocally at one time or another. Your voice puts all your cards on the table. It leads you straight down a path of authenticity and emotional honesty, which is awesome. Because really, it takes so much energy to conceal your true feelings. The trick is finding the balance between your authentic vulnerability and your confidence. That is the true art of empowerment… and the bulk of what I teach.
So have fun exploring your voice! It’s a joyful and fascinating playground. We are not all born to be Whitney Houston or Lady Gaga, but we are ALL born to use our voices and sing. Singing is good for the soul, just like laughing or dancing! It is a healthy, creative means of expression. And there are many techniques that can improve your voice at any age. That is what voice lessons are for! I certainly didn’t have near the vocal refinement before taking voice lessons at age 15. And for what it’s worth, our voices mature the most after age 18 anyway.
Remember, the voice is a regenerative muscle that can be stretched and strengthened. We were born instinctively knowing how to use our voices. When we were infants, we knew how to cry, shriek and scream without effort! Now we get to relearn how to use our voices, if we choose. It’s natural when we return to the basics of our breath and resonant placement. Singing is a soulful and therapeutic act that requires focus, flow, energy and active listening. It’s never too late to get in the game and sing the song that’s in your heart!